The following is an extract from Well This is Growing Up, a biographical self-help book for teenage girls by Megan Street.
I’ll never forget when I was in my final year of school and there was this horrible Facebook page that someone created, which was called ‘Hursty Goss’. People submitted girls’ names and ratings out of ten on both their ability in bed and how likely guys were to ‘get some’ in bed with this girl.
The page posted it with the girls’ last names and all, for everyone to see. One night, my friend inboxed me the link to the page (which
I had no idea about) and said that there was one on me! I still remember my stomach dropping. I followed the link and read on. It said, ‘Megan Street 0/10, no points; don’t bother, she’s just a massive frigid c*ck tease. We can’t give you a rating on her ability as no one knows it.’
After reading this, I immediately felt like I had to prove this ‘Hursty Goss’ wrong. I was so close to just messaging the guy I liked at the time to let me come over and he could have sex with me. SO CLOSE, but then I decided to sleep on my decision (by myself).
The next day I realised and said to myself: ‘No, I’m waiting for the right person’, so I just ignored the post. This is an example of how easily you can make a decision that you can never take back when you are young.
It is difficult to keep your virginity in a world where so much relates to sex and everyone is always banging on about it. I know how it feels to be caught in the moment and not thinking straight when things are getting heated.
As someone who kept her virginity long after high school, I know all too well what it’s like to be called a loser, dork, frigid, or ‘the girl who won’t put out’.