It’s about time we had an honest discussion don’t you think?
1. I forget to take my medicine.
When you admit that you keep forgetting to take your iron tablets, how hard it is to remember your asthma puffers every day or that you’re finding it really hard to find the time to exercise; I get it. May I be completely honest without losing credibility? I had iron deficiency after breast feeding for 6 months.
My iron levels were low and I was told to take a supplement by my GP (yes, I have my own GP)– I took them sporadically (insert sheepish face)– I kept forgetting, my guts hated it and I wondered if the universe had given me the nutritional deficiency solely so I would gain empathy for my patients who had the condition– well, it worked!
I also have asthma – I take my inhalers 80% of the time. I counsel all my asthmatic patients that the condition is long term, cannot be cured but can be very well controlled. But when it comes to me – I am not as reliable as I would like my patients to be. I often forget my inhaler when I have been well with no symptoms. Life gets in the way. I get busy worrying about Miss S’ nappy rash, work outfits for the week, meal planning – who could give a crap about my asthma?
2. I’m human.
Please don’t forget I am human too. When you sit across from me and say I wouldn’t understand, I grimace, because I struggle with all the same stuff you do – taking my medication every day, fitting in exercise, not reaching out for a wine every night. Being a doctor certainly doesn’t make me the perfect patient.
3. I know fitting in exercise is tough.
When I talk to you about bumping up exercise to aim for 30 minutes most days, I know how difficult it can be. I face the same battle every day. I notice your face fall when I ask you how the lifestyle changes have been going. I am not here to judge or punish you. I am simply here to guide, motivate and help you take the steering wheel of your own health.
I feel sad when you say, “Preeya you don’t know how hard it is to fit the exercise in.” Do I become immune to life’s challenges because I sit in the GP chair? These days, I am very honest with my patients; I juggle (and whether I succeed or not is a different matter) my motherhood, work, home life, an attempted social life and marriage; and trust me, I struggle fitting it all in too.
I cannot possibly do 30 minutes of exercise every day – so I don’t expect you to either. I do something active 5 out of 7 days most weeks and I don’t even expect my patients to do that; I only expect that you will TRY to take control of your own health will all the information and tools I give you.
If you don’t succeed every time that’s OK; I don’t expect miracles. So please don’t be scared to tell me if you haven’t done a walk 3 times a week or reduced your pastry intake; being a human I face all the same challenges as you.