It’s a question I never expected to have to answer.
I read an article recently about couples who needed to decide what to do with their remaining embryos after IVF. It’s a subject I’m personally interested in as I have three frozen embryos in a fertility clinic.
The article outlined some options available, but I found myself agreeing with all of them.
In March 2013, after five arduous years of IVF, I gave birth to my gorgeous twin boys. Even today, two years later, I look at them and think I’m the luckiest Mummy ever.
When you start IVF, if you're fortunate enough to have a lot of eggs, the clinic will fertilize them all, keep one or two out to transfer and freeze the remainder. This way, if the round isn’t successful, there are embryos ready for your next cycle and you don’t have to take as many hormones as if it were a fresh cycle. This is fine for other women, but I was only managing one, occasionally two viable eggs per cycle and was never successful at producing a pregnancy. In the end I went to Greece and used an anonymous egg and sperm donor. All of this was through my fertility clinic in Sydney. You can read about about my journey here and here.
Lying on a bed in the fertility clinic in Greece, listening to the doctor tell me he was transferring three embryos out of the viable six gave me more hope than I’d had in all the years of unsuccessful IVF. I’d never had so many "chances".
Two weeks later, I was finally pregnant. Since then, the past few years have been a whirlwind. I have loved every minute of it. Well, maybe not every moment, but I would not change a single thing for anything.
As for my embryos, the clinic stores frozen embryos for up to five years. I have two years left to decide what to do with them. The choices are, use them, donate them to an infertile woman/couple or donate them to science.