As if having a new baby isn’t tough enough.
Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t.
If Kayla Boyd, the wife of Brisbane Bronco’s star player Darius had skipped his big game on Sunday night to stay home she would have been branded an unsupportive wife. Instead she choose to be there for her husband by flying to Sydney for the game – thereby leaving her 11-day old daughter with her mother for the night.
But when you have a new baby, according to the social media rules of mothering, she should be your first priority – and so Kayla Boyd was a castigated as a bad mother – instead of a bad wife.
You just can’t please the trolls.
The lifestyle blogger has been forced to defend herself against the nasty comments saying that she was shocked at the vicious nature of the posts questioning her devotion to her daughter.
She has written a response to the haters saying: “For the people who have commented negatively on my life as a new mother, you have no right and if it bothers you that much, simply unfollow my social media page.”
Kayla gave birth to her first child, a daughter called Willow 11 days ago.
It had been thought that her baby might come during Grand Finals – but the little girl made her entrance to the world two days before the semi-final against the Roosters.
Kayla told The Courier Mail that when she left her daughter for a night to attend the Grand Final she copped a barrage of social media criticism – surprisingly, mainly from other women.
The comments targeted a photo she posted of herself and fellow WAG Bridget Hagan, partner of Broncos halfback Ben Hunt, on their way to the big game.
Instead of being praised she was slammed and called a “horrible mother” who was “happy to throw” her daughter “to the side, leave her and go out.”
One particularly passive aggressive poster writing ” Girl you are never home! I don’t know how you do it as a new mom! I was obsessed with my chica lol I wasn’t happy with others holding her & defs no minding her! ”
Kayla had left her 11-day old with her mother as she made the day long trip to Sydney from Brisbane – and decision she says was hard enough.
She told The Courier Mail “Women need to be more open minded about things,’’ she said. “Whatever path you take is what you want to do. Everybody needs to be commended on their own individual choices.”
She said that the actions were bullying.
“I see how instant bullying does actually affect a person. It affects me,” she told The Courier Mail.
“I like to think I have thick skin but when you’re commenting about parenting, it’s a very personal topic.”