Wishing wells are a divisive thing.
You don’t want to blow the budget, but you don’t want to come across as a tight arse either.
It’s a delicate balance.
Wedding Wishing Well: Yes or no? How much? Post continues below.
To clear up the confusion – or maybe add to it, soz – we asked 12 women how they navigate the tricky financial decision, including what factors they consider.
And their answers were absolutely fascinating.
From absolutely nothing to $500, this is what they said.
“We live rurally, with most of our family in the capital cities. So adding in hours of travel, fuel, accommodation etc. we sometimes don’t give anything! I believe you’re there to celebrate and can give as much or as little (nothing) as you want.”
“I think anything less than $50 per person is rude. Unless of course the guest is unemployed or has fallen on hard times, which I’m sure the bride and groom would understand. I am not partnered and give $100.”
“150 per person. I feel like that covers the cost of your seat. I’ll do $200 if it’s a close friend, $500 if I’m in the Bridal party and $100 if it’s a destination wedding.”
“Minimum $150 – to cover the cost of your seat plus extra. I pay more if I’m in the Bridal Party – around $500 usually plus a gift from the Bridal Party. So expensive!”
“Depends how much the engagement present and hens party cost and whether I had to travel far for the wedding (and if I’m in the Bridal party or not). But I think $100 to $150 per person is reasonable.”
“I’m poor. I walk up and say into the wishing well ‘I wish you well’. If they know me enough to invite me to there wedding, they know I will be doing this. My friends know me, and that I hate weddings. By the time I get to the wedding, I have been to a bridal shower, a bachelorette party (sometimes interstate), or as some expensive holiday house for a few days. I have been a bridesmaid EIGHT TIMES, every time I had to pay for my own dress, the transport and/or paying for a hotel. The last four weddings have cost me $2400-$6790.”
“I think it’s based off your own income. I went to heaps and heaps of my friends’ weddings in my early 20s when I was a cadet newspaper journalist earning under $40,000 a year, so I used to only give $50, but on top of my flights and other things, that was what I could afford and I think that’s ok. Also, I’m giving no one $500 to get married, sorry, not even my own family.”