We see a lot of engagement rings. Social media is flooded with images after a proposal.
We talk about the size, shape, weight, clarity of the diamond. The way it might match a wedding band. We see how it looks in different lights and settings. Instagram brings us photographs of engagement rings on hands in front of the Eiffel tower; atop the cliffs in Santorini; wrapped around the hands of their fiance, holding little jewellery boxes.
But once the wedding band is added, maybe even an eternity ring as well, the photographs stop. The rings fit together. They are there on the third finger of the left hand, and serve as a more private reminder to the couple of their commitment, their wedding day, their life together since. They’re no longer anyone else’s business.
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Because of this (the lack of twenty-years married-and-the-rings-are-still-here photographs on Instagram and Facebook), it seems there are quite a few of us not wearing our rings “correctly”.
We’re not being shown examples, and we’re no longer quite sure exactly which order the rings should be placed in.
Should it be engagement ring, wedding ring, eternity ring? Should they be on different fingers, on opposite hands? What order? How should so many rings fit in the one place?