I had a horrific birth experience with my first born. I’m talking out-of-control blood pressure and early stages of organ failure. Things got very dicey. My son was cut out in a hurry, he went to the neonatal intensive care unit, I went to Intensive Care. We were both very sick and I didn’t hold my baby for 24 hours. Just one big mess of a birth really.
So when we fell pregnant with our second we obviously wanted to avoid that scenario at all costs. I had my heart set on pushing the baby out and started feverishly googling ‘vaginal birth after caesarean’ (VBAC). As the early weeks progressed, I began to experience a lot of head noise at the idea of another caesarean. I’m proud to say that at this stage I strapped on a pair and booked an appointment with a psychologist so I could start dealing with some fairly significant unresolved issues around the first birth. It was a phone call that was well overdue.
So the next phone call was to book my pregnant belly and I into the best hospital we could afford. We live in a rural area and didn’t feel comfortable attempting a VBAC at any of the local hospitals. In the end we spent a lot of time and money doing 11 hour round trips to John Hunter to give ourselves the best possible antenatal care. It’s called ‘doctor shopping’ and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.