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"It feels awkward and tacky": 30 women on what they really think about weddings.

In case you haven't noticed, wedding season is coming in hot.

Couples across the country are getting married left, right and centre, after countless postponements and COVID-related setbacks over the past two years.

It goes without saying there is no such thing as the "perfect" big day, and when it comes to getting married (or not) our policy is very much you do you

But according to the Mamamia community, there are some things that just might not be necessary.

From wishing wells to bridal parties, here are 30 quite controversial wedding opinions.

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1. "I am not a fan of the bouquet and garter toss at all. It feels awkward and desperate. I didn't do one at my wedding."

2. "Not seeing the groom before walking down the aisle. Who cares? The day goes so quickly I wanted to see him and spend time together before the ceremony."

3. "Bridal showers are so unnecessary, especially if you're having an engagement party and a hen's party. Expecting presents at all of the pre-wedding events is also a lot to ask of wedding guests!"

4. "Having your dad as the default person to walk you down the aisle is super outdated. Both my parents raised me so both of them walked me down the aisle."

5. "Destination weddings aren't fabulous and just give your guests a mental load they didn't need. Plus, the additional expenses on top of a gift or cash to give you."

6. "'Bridal party' - how ridiculous. All you need is a bride and groom. Everyone else is a bit extra and unnecessary. Besides, they should all be looking at you anyway - you're the whole reason anyone is there."

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7. "Having a wedding cake - no one eats it and it is so expensive."

8. "I don't like matching bridesmaids' dresses."

9. "Paying for wedding cars is a pointless expense. We got ready at the venue, then just hired a van to take us to photo locations. The maid of honour’s husband drove us around including the photographer, and he’d packed an esky full of drinks and snacks for us. Saved thousands."

10. "The bride and groom should cover all costs for the bridal party (clothes, shoes, accessories, hair, makeup, tanning) and if they can't afford to do that, don't have a bridal party."

11. "You lose your right to complain about housing affordability if you spend $30,000 plus on a wedding."

12. "Hens and bucks nights don't make sense to me. I'd rather just have a big engagement party with all of our friends."

13. "I ditched a bridal party, walking down the aisle, the bride having to stay hidden before the ceremony, garter or bouquet toss and first dance. I felt like our friends and family being there in one big group was our bridal party, I caught up with everyone as they arrived just as my husband did, then we all partied on for the night without having to stop for games or dances. If my friend didn't make one for us, I wouldn't have had a cake either!"

14. "I'm not a fan of parents 'giving their children away' or 'presenting' them."

15. "Get a f**k it bucket. Put everything in there you and your partner do not care about like tossing the bouquet, favours, cake if you don’t like cake (hubby and I don’t eat dessert so we had cheese instead), negative people and anything else you don’t want."

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16. "I don't like the idea that it's all about the bride. The other person getting married deserves all the attention too, so do all the people who are standing there with you. It's a community event, not a solo expedition."

17. "I think taking the husband’s last name is totally outdated."

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18. "Big weddings with extended family members or 'have-to' invites. I understand we share DNA and they might get mad or be offended, but sorry, don't care. I want to celebrate with the people in my life that I share my life with on the daily."

19. "We are having a strictly no children wedding. I don’t really care if people can’t come because they can’t find sitters for their children, that’s their problem, not mine."

20. "Wishing wells are tacky."

21. "No one cares about your wedding and that’s ok! It’s ok that your best mate since you were five would rather not hear about every tiny detail. A wedding is a joyous, happy day but it shouldn’t consume your life leading up to it, and you should certainly not expect that it consumes your friends and families' lives either."

22. "The fact that some people spend more money on a wedding than a house deposit baffles me. Over $100,000 for one day? No thanks."

23. "You won't regret a videographer - what they capture is far more valuable and memorable than photography."

24. "It’s okay to not want to 'celebrate' in front of family and friends. Eloping or a registry wedding is perfectly fine if that’s what YOU want. People shouldn’t get offended that there isn’t a party."

25. "Don’t make the gap between the ceremony and the reception hours long and leave guests with nothing to do."

26. "Long engagements are weird."

27. "I didn't have a cake and chose brownies instead, to ensure we were paying for something that would be eaten!"

28. "I’ve chosen to wear a second-hand wedding dress. That could be controversial for some people but it’s my perfect dress, a third of the price and I love it."

29. "We didn't invite partners of friends unless we were also friends with them."

30. "Elope! (I’m married, had a wedding, would not do it again! I would elope for sure!)"

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