By AOL Health for Your Tango.
When it comes to friends, there’s bound to be a few bad apples in the bunch. For whatever reason — maybe they’re overly critical, perpetually depressed or just plain annoying — you can’t stand to be around them. Yet rather than keeping them in your life, consider giving them the heave-ho or you could suffer.
“Keeping toxic people around could take away time and energy from positive friends, damage your self-esteem or put you in harm’s way,” says Jan Yager, Ph.D., sociologist and author of When Friendship Hurts. Here, she deconstructs a dozen so-called friends you may want to break up with.
1. The Faultfinder.
You know these people: They’re always critical of everything you do and say, which can be contagious. If this friend has redeeming traits, ignore the overly critical comments or make a joke by saying something like, “Let’s see if you can last an hour without saying anything negative.”
However, if you’re unable to distance yourself or your self-esteem is hurting too much, step away from the relationship.
The Mamamia Team on when they knew a relationship was over. (Post continues after video.)
2. The Therapist.
Too much advice is never good, especially from a supposed friend. If you’re keeping this person around because of the other wonderful traits she possesses, tell your friend you don’t want advice unless you ask. Or thank the person without discussing her comments. Another solution? Start analysing her and she may realise how annoying that can be.
3. The Self-Absorbed
Everyone is self-absorbed to some extent, but when a person is always focused on herself and never lets you share anything about yourself, something needs to give. Because she may not be aware she’s doing this, let your friend know.
If she can’t curb this trait and you don’t want the friendship to end, limit how long you let her go on about herself; then give yourself equal air time. (Post continues after gallery.)
4. The Copy-Cat.
Imitation is the highest form of flattery, but it could create hostility between you and your friend. If you want to keep her around, protect yourself by keeping things to yourself more often or timing when you share information. If, though, this trait is too annoying, end the friendship.
5. The Promise Breaker.
You’re tired of constantly being disappointed by this friend, so if you want to keep this person around, lower your expectations. Also, call your friend on this behaviour.
Clue her in by asking, “Did you know this is the fourth time in two months you had to cancel lunch at the last minute?” However, if this trait puts you in too many compromising situations, makes you feel frustrated or disappointed in yourself for being treated like this, it may be time to abandon ship.