The one question every single person has been nagging me about from the moment I said “I do”.
People often ask me: “What’s different about being married?”
My answer is: “You are on baby watch from the time you walk down the aisle.”
The pregnant question is something I have in common with actress Zooey Deschanel. On the issue of constant speculation about the bun in her oven, Zooey, 34, told InStyle magazine’s August edition, “Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don’t think so. Nobody asks guys that. This brings out the fiery feminist in me.”
Besides feminism, if you ask me, it is just plain rude.
A few examples of how the baby-pressure affects my life:
– For the past 851 days I have drunk more alcohol at dinners/lunches/events than I did as a single woman. Because if I don’t drink alcohol, I’m obviously pregnant.
– And if I ever offer to be the designated driver, then my friends start speculating why I want to drive. Forget that I am a nice friend, I am clearly pregnant.
– Then there is the lack of sympathy for when I get food poisoning. Because throwing up can only mean I have morning sickness and trying to cover my pregnancy up.
– Or I can only be hiding a pregnant belly by wearing a baggy top. I’m not just trying to be do slouchy-chic.
– When the power went out in my house and I posted to my Facebook page what were my husband and I going to do without TV – a friend said the only thing would be baby making.
Or when my husband and I booked a romantic holiday my family said there was only two possible reasons why. To spend the week trying to get pregnant. Or, it was our babymoon. There is absolutely no way we just wanted to escape and lie on a beach drinking cocktails (I made sure to post several of those cocktails as evidence I was not pregnant, or trying).
Now, I am not upset with my friends and family. I know they are just incredibly excited about me and my husband taking this next step in our lives.
But I also don't appreciate the pressure.