When it comes to figuring out men, it sometimes pays to skip the girl talk and head straight to the source. This weekly column is my advice on your most burning questions about guys. And since I’m gay, I’m kind of halfway inside your head already. Let’s dive in!
This week, you asked:
“I’ve been overseas with my boyfriend, and just came back. I was so looking forward to the holiday, but within two days of being there, I absolutely hated him. I don’t know whether it was my mood (I can get depressed and anxious), or if it means we’re really not compatible. Everything about him annoyed me, from the way he ate to the way he talked to every single suggestion he had of what we should do. Now that we’re home, and I have my space, I feel a bit better, but I’m worried about being with someone who can drive me crazy. Should you be able to travel with your partner? Or are some couples just better at home?”
The short answers is yes. You should be able to travel with your partner.
The long answer, which completely contradicts the short, is hellllllllllllllllllllllllllllll no. Travelling with your partner can really suck.
But for the sake of your relationship, let’s unpack these contradicting beliefs a bit further.
A normal, healthy relationship remains normal and healthy because the individuals get breaks from each other. In the beginning, you may see your significant other a few times a week. And usually at night. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated with them, it’s completely acceptable to take a few days off to reconnect with friends or to catch up on The Bachelor.
Side note – how do you know if you ACTUALLY love the person you’re with? Post continues after video.
Even long after getting married and having children, most couples continue to benefit from leaving each other for extended periods of time. You go to work, then to the gym, and maybe even a cheeky glass of red wine with a co-worker you used to hang out with before your husband impregnated you.