Janet and Penny have been married for thirty years.
They share a passion for science and a love of the outdoors, but most importantly a deep love for each other. They met as students, and fell in love very quickly.
“I just enjoyed your company,” said Penny of Janet. “I felt incredibly comfortable with you instantly.”
For the early part of their relationship, and first half of their marriage, Janet and Penny lived as Janet and Peter. After 12 years of marriage and two children together, Penny finally found the strength to tell Janet she was transgender.
“I couldn’t live out my life along the way that I’d been doing,” she told The Project. “I had to be true to myself.”
Janet says that while she was a little taken aback at first, she never considered ending her relationship.
“Given that there was that sense that we still love each other,” she told The Project, “it didn’t really challenge the marriage.”
“I really do love her. I love her as Penny as I loved her as Peter.”
They faced many external challenges, for their family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances, but their own relationship remained constant.
After 28 years of marriage to her wife Janice, Brenda Appleton admitted she was transgender. “When I transitioned it was very much a life of death decision,” said Brenda. “I’d had three suicide incidents.”
In an effort to explain what she was going through, Brenda wrote her wife a poem. “Oh Janice my love, I am sorry. Oh to cause such grief without even trying,” it read.