Usually Where Are They Nows involve child stars from sitcoms or movies. Precocious, once cute, kids that seem to have a high strike rate when it comes to self destruction and multiple rehab stints.
Today, we bring to you a completely different Where Are They Now?
In 2011, Yale Law Professor, Amy Chua, wrote a memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother about motherhood and the cultural differences that surround raising children. In it, she was unapologetically demanding and tough when raising her two daughters, Sophia and Louisa.
They sometimes practiced violin (Louisa) and piano (Sophia) six hours a day. Television, computer games, sleepovers, playdates were banned. If the birthday cards they gave to their mother weren’t up to scratch (i.e the writing in them was sub-par), Chua would tell them they weren’t good enough and to do them again.
The expectation from the academic subjects that mattered (Chua was clear drama didn’t matter) were A’s. Straight A’s. Chua derided the “permissive” style of Western parenting and lack of emphasis on academic results and spurned the Western emphasis on self-esteem.
For Chua self-esteem came from hard work and the accomplishments that followed. It didn’t come from being told how great you were for doing nothing. It didn’t come from a “participation medal”. Chua says she was devoted and loved her children, but she also had high expectations.
Raised by strict Chinese immigrant parents, Chua mimicked their uncompromising parenting styles.
“Childhood is a training period,” Chua said. “A time to build character and invest in the future. I think we should assume strength in our children, not weakness.”