Men share what getting a blow job really feels like.

Ten men have told New York Magazine what being given a blow job feels like.

From the humourous to the confronting, to the sweet and absolutely disturbing, their descriptions and revaleations are surprisingly detailed (let’s just say, it’s clear they’ve thought about it… a lot).

Here are the best gems out of the 10 contributions. Brace yourself… You’re about to enter the head of a man who is receiving head… Mind-blown (pun intended).

There’s the dominance factor

It’s clearly her choice, and the more clearly it seems like her choice, the better it is for me. On her knees seems submissive, but to me it’s the perfect balance. I’m dominant but she’s making the choice for herself. – Jesse, 31*

Blow jobs feel great, but it’s hard to describe the exact sensation. I guess it’s something like a cross between having sex and masturbating, but with a feeling of domination, a fulfilling one, because someone else is doing all the hard work. – Sven, 30

I am in the “meh” category. It can be great — amazing even — if it’s illicit, like under a bathroom stall, or if the power and/or service and/or sub angle is exploited, but mostly I find it a total bore and much prefer to give than to get. – Ben, 35

There’s disappointment

I hate blow jobs. I have never liked them. I know I am supposed to, but I spend the entire time worrying: Am I taking too long? Is her mouth sore? Do I have too much hair down there (I haven’t trimmed in a while), etc. – Michael, 30

I’ve never been able to lie back, relax, and just get blown. I worry too much that my partner isn’t enjoying it. […] I was very disappointed by blow jobs at first. I was 19 when I got one for the first time, and the mountains of porn that I’d watched told me that my body would become instantaneously wracked with pleasure the moment my penis made contact with a woman’s mouth. Obviously that’s not the case. – Mario, 30

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There’s the technicalities

It’s like if your clit were ten times its size and in another person’s mouth. – Harrison, 29

The worst thing that could happen is having your penis bitten off, and you do have to worry about worst-case scenarios. – Edward, 31

Getting a BJ makes my teeth hurt for some reason — a literal tingling pain in the molars akin to chewing foil. – Ben, 35

There’s intimacy

You know when I really want a BJ? When I am high or drunk and I am numb. It helps me relax even more. You can’t move, and seeing the girl enjoy it turns me on. – John, 23

There’s ‘philosophy’

A BJ is life. There’s nothing like it after a long day of work. But, as much as I love that, I love doggy style even more. – Drake, 26

As my parents used to say: “What counts most is not the gift, but the sentiment with which it was given.” – Rodger, 34

And then there’s this….

A blow job feels like I’m a wild dolphin running through the ocean. I can feel the warm Pacific sea on my smooth skin. Can I come up for air yet? Wait. Wait. Wait. – James, 45

We never new receiving a blow job was such a ‘poetic’ experience.

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*All names have been changed.

Interviews appeared in NY Times Magazine.

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