Now that I have a one month old child again, it has become abundantly clear that there are times when people just don’t know what to say to me.

This is the third time I’ve been through this stage, and the comments are always the same. Sometimes people who don’t know you well are just grasping for topics to talk about, and sometimes people with no kids are just clueless. It’s not their fault; they just haven’t been through it.

So consider this a guide to inform you about what not to say to those people who are in the middle of trying to figure out life with a newborn. Some of these are questions, some are statements, but none should ever leave your mouth when speaking to a new parent…

CLICK THROUGH this gallery of 9 things you should never say to parents of a new born…

"Are you getting much sleep?"

"Let me know if I can do anything for you."

"How is your wife doing?"

"Is the baby sleeping through the night yet?"

"I just got a puppy, so now I know what having a baby is like."

"You know your baby is probably tired/hungry/has a dirty diaper/etc."

"When are you going to bring the baby over?"

"When are you having the next one?"

This post originally appeared on LunchboxDad.com.  It appears here with full permission.

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