What kind of man do you hope your son will become? This mum has made a list of the things she’d love her little boys to know about the women who will be in their lives.
As the mum of two boys, I often have to remind them (and myself) that I’m a woman first, a mum second. I remember when my teen son was little and he said he wanted to marry a woman just like me. I was flattered and scared at the same time. On one hand, he must see good qualities in me that he would want in a future wife but on the other hand was it fair to expect his future wife to be a Star Wars, Pokemon, Hot Wheels, Lego, SpongeBob loving ninja?
I now realise that at that age, the thought of his wife being like his mother was the coolest thing in the world. Now that he’s a teen, he sees me through different lenses and I just pray that I’m giving him (and now his little brother) a balanced view on women.
Here are some things I want to teach my sons about women:
1. All Women Are Not The Same
The last thing I want is for my sons to make the assumption that all people are the same. It’s easy to make judgments about others when you don’t have all the facts. Appreciate the differences in women based on their character, talents, personality, and interests. Don’t try to change a woman because of your unrealistic expectations or preferences. If you can’t accept her for who she is, find someone else who is more compatible. Also, be mindful that there are good and bad people in the world, regardless of gender. Don’t let a bad experience with one woman influence your perception of all women.
2. Women are Funny
Tina Fey, Aisha Tyler, Amy Poehler, Mindy Kaling, Wanda Sykes, Mo’Nique, Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy, Maya Rudolph, Amy Sedaris, Loni Love, Kym Whitley, Betty White, Carol Burnett, Whoopi Goldberg, Margaret Cho, Roseann Barr, Chelsea Handler, Amanda Seales, Kathy Griffin, Lisa Lampanelli, Sarah Silverman, Julia Louis-Dreyfuss, Sandra Bernard, Sommore, Jennifer Coolidge, Gilda Radner, Rachel Dratch, Joy Behar, just to name a few.
3. Appreciate a Woman’s Strength, Don’t Use It Against Her
Both genders get mixed messages about strength. Don’t get caught up in archaic views of traditional male or female roles. While men are expected to be strong, assertive and fearless, these same qualities are not always valued in women. Be confident enough to admire a woman’s strength and not see it as a threat to your masculinity.