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Do you and your partner chit chat about the weather and random details of your work day … or do you make time to really talk?
Seventy-nine college students had their conversations recorded and analysed by researchers, who distinguished between chit-chat about the food or the weather from discussions about philosophy, education, or religion. Subjects who reported the greatest amount of satisfaction spent only 10 per cent of their conversation on small talk, while the unhappiest subjects kept 28.3 per cent of their talking time in the shallow end.
Granted, the researchers have yet to conclude whether people are happy because they can talk deeply, or whether they talk deeply because they are happy. Either way, we started thinking about how important “real conversation” is in relationships.
One of the perks of being in a committed relationship is the ability to discuss subjects you likely avoided during the early stages of dating. So pour yourselves a drink, cozy up on the sofa and have yourselves a good heart-to-heart chat. Here are 10 topics super happy couples regularly talk about:
1. Embarrassing moments
If you can’t share the awkward moments that occurred throughout high school with your partner, you can you tell them to? Don’t be afraid to broach the subject, if you haven’t already. We wouldn’t be surprised if his stories are more horrifying (and hilarious) than yours.
2. Political viewpoints
How do you really feel about the next election or that new law that passed? You don’t have to agree with each other, although it would certainly help. A good relationship allows both parties to discuss their own philosophies without taking the opposing viewpoints personally.
3. Fears and insecurities
By fears, we don’t mean your phobia of earthworms. We’re talking about things that make you wake up with gray hairs. What worries you? What do you want to improve in yourself? What are your past skeletons? In being vulnerable, you risk judgment, but more importantly, you chance finally being understood. (Post continues after gallery.)
4. Your childhoods
Ask your partner what he or she was like as a kid. Did he make friends easily? What kind of games did he like to play? Did he have trouble in school? Childhood memories make for fun conversations, but they can also lend insight into how your guy became the person he is today.