Earlier this month, the writer behind the popular blog The Mummy Code, Rachelle, shared an honest post about the challenges of being a working mum. Employed in Melbourne as a council worker, Rachelle lamented that her job isn’t easy, and that while she’s grateful for her family, there’s something to be said for the chaos of being a working mum, and what goes on ‘behind the scenes.’ The Facebook post has since gone viral, receiving over 44,000 reactions from mothers, some were very negative, some very positive. This is Rachelle’s response.
In a day and age where Kim Kardashian breaks the Internet by showing her butt or posts naked selfies with the hashtag 'liberated', it’s no wonder that so many trolls exist. However, this is her content, she is old enough to know what she’s doing and has a team of managers/lawyers who deal with everything. Plus, really who cares? If you don't like, it don’t look.
I started my blog The Mummy Code while I was on maternity leave as a hobby, a creative outlet. A way to share funny stories, support and perhaps help other women with the struggles of raising children. Recently, I posted a picture of me in my filthy car and described a snapshot of my day which included an early wake up and work. This photo went crazy on social media and ended up with over 2.6 million views and lots of comments.
I have posted hundreds of photos on my social media accounts, all with honest captions and written some controversial blogs. I had no idea that this simple photo would cause such a stir. I was fully clothed and it didn't even show my full face or my children’s faces.
There were many comments and 90% of them are positive (thank you ????). I also read some of the troll comments and just took them with a grain of salt. My main concern and first thought was for all the young girls (or boys) trying to be like Kim Kardashian or Justin Bieber and posting photos or blogs online. What if they read these comments about themselves? I was called a bitch, whinger and slut multiple times? My parenting was questioned? I was told I was neglecting my children by putting them in childcare and a number of people commented on my looks and/or makeup.
I realise I’m not the first person who has had trolls comment and I also realise that people have had worse things said about them. Trolls want attention, but in all truth the nice/supportive comments were the ones getting attention from others.
My point is, I’m 34 years old, thick skinned and don’t get easily offended. However, an 18 year old with anxiety might not take this ‘feedback’ so well.
The positive comments I received were mostly from women and men around my age, the big surprise for me is that a lot of the negative comments were from people my parents age? People who have raised children and probably now grandparents. Why on earth do they even care? Shouldn’t that generation be setting an example for younger generations? I certainly want my children to encourage and support others, not try to belittle them or tear them down for no reason at all.
If you or your children are starting a blog, posting photos online just know exactly that. They are public, people are cruel and while it’s nice to be acknowledged, in the grand scheme of things it’s really nothing. My car is still dirty, I have to work tomorrow and my children will still probably wake up super early.
If you are a troll or thinking of making a negative comment think twice... the young girl who you insult on her beauty blog may suffer depression, the mother that you say is a ‘bad mother’ may have PND. The child you call ugly is just an innocent child and has done nothing to you.
My post was meant to be a relatable post about a normal working mothers day, it was a small snapshot of my life. If you can relate great, if you don’t like it... move on. If I rewrote the post and took all these comments into consideration it would be a very long boring post.
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I’m happy in my life, I love my family and appreciate my job. I have taken this whole experience as a lesson for when my children start using social media. Mummy and Daddy will be watching!!!
Be kind people, it costs nothing.