Tess Holliday is no stranger to trolls or armchair critics. Throughout her current pregnancy, the size 22 model has been subject to countless comments and opinions about her appearance, weight and even health, including the most recent rant by Aussie fitness blogger Ashy Bines.
Now in her eighth month of pregnancy, Holliday has hit back at critics, sharing another bump shot on Instagram.
In the caption, she details how the most challenging part of her pregnancy has been tackling the constant barrage of ‘advice’ she gets.
“As I enter my eighth month, my body overall looks the same other than my belly and I’m okay with that. What I’ve had to be learn to be okay with (WHICH IS NOT COOL) is the fact that people still think it’s okay to comment on my body: ‘You don’t look pregnant’, ‘You must be have quadruplets’, ‘You are putting your baby at risk’ and a slew of other uneducated statements that are very far from my reality,” she wrote.
Having another baby has been a beautiful process & at times, frustrating. As I enter my 8th month, my body overall looks the same other than my belly & I’m okay with that. What I’ve had to be learn to be okay with (WHICH IS NOT COOL) is the fact that people still think it’s okay to comment on my body: “you don’t look pregnant”, “you must be have quadruplets”, “you are putting your baby at risk” & a slew of other uneducated statements that are very far from my reality ????. When “celebrities” are pregnant in the press, they look glamorous, toned & are eager to talk about how they are going to get the baby weight off. While I’ve done my best to look as put together as possible, that’s not real life, & it’s not for most women. I’m not the first plus size woman in the public eye to have a baby & share it with the world, & I certainly won’t be the last. However I’m part of a small minority that’s telling you it’s okay to not have a perfect baby bump, or not show at all, to be plus size & have a healthy child, & most importantly to find a care provider that doesn’t shame you about your size. It’s also okay to tell someone to fuck off when they give you unsolicited advice about what’s “best” for you & your baby. As women, we know what’s best & that’s our business.. No one else’s. ???? #effyourbeautystandards #theresnowrongwaytobeawoman #32weeks #babyhollidayontheway
Her aim, she says, has always been to be authentic during her pregnancy, unlike other celebrities who aim to make it look as glamorous as possible.
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“I’m part of a small minority that’s telling you it’s okay to not have a perfect baby bump, or not show at all, to be plus size and have a healthy child and most importantly to find a care provider that doesn’t shame your size,” she says.
“It’s also okay to tell someone to fuck off when they give you unsolicitated advice about what’s ‘best’ for you and your baby. As women we know what’s best and that’s our business.”
It was a message many of Holliday’s followers were grateful to hear.
“You look beautiful@tessholliday ! Thank you for your inspiring words AND actions!,” wrote one, while another added “Congrats on your baby! You’re a beautiful woman so please don’t listen to any of that bs negative.” (Post continues after gallery.)
Unfortunately, other comments weren’t so positive.
“You’re having a hard time finding a care giver that doesn’t shame you for your size? Gee, I wonder why,” wrote one.
“Its a blessing to be able to have a child but to put a child at such a great risk before its even born is so selfish and cruel. Def shame on her,” read another.
Clearly they did not understand Holliday’s message – but here’s hoping it helps those who need the important reminder.
What was your experience with unsolicited advice when you were pregnant?