I am in a really messed up situation, and it is completely my fault.
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years, off and on. She is five months pregnant. While we were broken up for a couple of weeks (she was already pregnant, but we didn’t know yet), I was sleeping with a woman who I have had on and off relations with. I found out a few weeks ago that she is also pregnant.
To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I don’t know what to do. She was going to have an abortion, and now she has changed her mind. I am freaking out. I can barely handle the thought of becoming a father to one child. But, two????
I am not trying to pressure her as to what to do, but I am going out of my mind. How the hell am I going to tell my girlfriend? Things had FINALLY been going smoothly between us. I don’t want to ruin what we have, and I am scared because I know she is super hormonal now, too.
Should I wait and see what happens with the second pregnancy? Or should I come clean to my girlfriend now? And how do I tell her? Should I sit her down and tell her or write her an email. I am desperate here. Please help.
Dude! With all of these “accidental” pregnancies, I’d like to point out the obvious — HAVE YOU HEARD OF CONDOMS?
That said, what’s done is done. And you need to be a grown up and take responsibility for both situations. As you said, you have no say in what woman number two decides about the fate of this pregnancy. What you do have control over is how you handle yourself with both women.
First, tell your girlfriend. Tell her soon and tell her in person.