That probably sounds strange. Let me explain.
I won’t ever tell my kids – boys, sons – not to hit girls.
I never reinforce the “men don’t hit women” message.
I will not teach my sons not to hit women.
Do I think women deserve to be hit?
Do I think violence against women is acceptable?
Right now, at this point in time, whilst we’re fighting for the rights of women, fighting for equality (and in a rather slap-in-the-face-with-a-wet-fish moment, perhaps, under the circumstances, the word “fighting” is highly inappropriate. Work with me here? You know what I mean, right?) and fighting to be seen and heard.
I have no problems with this fight, and support it as best I can.
Right now, at times I feel that this is at the expense of men and boys.
They are oft portrayed as beer swilling, stupid acting morons, incapable of raising children, cleaning the house or doing anything other than looking good in a suit, and attracting bimbos with a horrendously overpowering body spray.
This is the case in commercials, on TV shows, in movies and more.
Most men are not like this.
Now, I want to see women respected more, for little girls to grow up to be what they want etc.
I also want this for my boys.
Which is why one of my messages to them is NOT about “don’t ever hit girls”.
Men hitting women, even from young ages, is appalling. I hate that it is occurring in such gross numbers, or that it is occurring at all.
Men hitting men, however, is also a massive issue.
We see more young men in induced comas, in wheelchairs, or in coffins as a result of male-on-male violence.
Whenever I see or hear a story on the news about yet another “coward punch” and the results of that, my heart is gripped with fear.