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Did you happen to hear about a wedding over the weekend? Apparently it was at Madison Square Garden? Yeah, just the biggest wedding this century that none of us have had the privilege of seeing photos of yet!

But it's been interesting to see some of the hot takes surrounding the Taylor and Travis Swift Kelce holy sacrament of marriage – officiated by Adam Sandler.

Different corners of the internet have yelled about it, saying it inconvenienced people, that it was tacky, that it was a narcissistic spectacle of billionaire cringe — and most damning of all: that it was mid. 

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As if the person who wrote the lyric, "His love was the key that opened my thighs" is supposed to have a niche wedding, somewhere quiet, out of town where helicopters can easily fly overhead and take pics.

Did we forget why she has such broad appeal? She didn't earn a record of US $2 billion gross from a worldwide concert tour for singing songs only accessible to elites.

Are we going to get mad now that she chose happiness? But remember that whenever she's chosen anger (even self-referential) she's faced backlash anyway. As British journalist Laurie Penny famously pointed out, "One sure test of social privilege is how much anger you get to express without the threat of expulsion, arrest, or social exclusion."

Swift already faced social exclusion; making herself so small, the internet believed she could fit into a suitcase. Perhaps this is why we don't know the exact details behind Blake Lively and Ryan Reynold's absence at the wedding, beyond those unsealed texts – every time Swift expresses herself outside "entertaining", she's punished for it.

And of course, this includes the wedding. But Taylor Swift has been telling us over and over again who she is – and it was never someone who thought they were cool.  We're familiar with the Maya Angelou line, "When someone shows you who they are – believe them the first time." And why are we all familiar with that line? Not because we were tapped into Maya's genius, but because another universally beloved, thoroughly mid celebrity, introduced us to her – Oprah Winfrey.

Life is too short, too painful, too wrenching right now to parse through what is good taste and what is merely mezzanine. I say this not because I am tired, (I am, always) but because every time we've put stock in a "genius" artist or otherwise, they've failed us. Morally. Crushingly. Think of any genius you know and now tell me about their spotless ethical record. It's tough, isn't it? 

So let Taylor have her silly puns, her corny JUST&T MARRIED signs, her book of vows that goes on for 20 minutes. Let Paul McCartney play, as befits the man whose co-writer, John Lennon, abandoned their universally beloved band, declaring himself a genius, too lofty for The Beatles.

Yet John's horrible parenting, adultery and abuse is a footnote, way behind "give peace a chance", as if the two aren't at best, contradictory, at worst, rank hypocrisy. In fact, Lennon is part of a long list of problematic male singers we bestow forgiveness on, because of their "genius" from Dave Grohl to Morrissey to – ahem – Kanye West, right up to Matt Healy.

Is it any wonder Swift herself opted for a footballer in the end?

We compare her union to a royal wedding and the analogy is apt. Just look at Princess Catherine who chose to walk over 37km in the sleet and mist, up the three highest mountains in Britain in order to raise money and express her "gratitude" for the hospital that helped her through her cancer. Whatever happened to an oversized cheque and a ribbon cutting?

Well, we only have to look at Taylor, who, together with her new husband, donated $26 million to charities – many of them New York-based to celebrate her wedding. Still it wasn't enough.

Meanwhile, nobody is talking about Travis, and William, of course, who appeared on Travis' podcast while his wife, 18 months out from a life-threatening illness, dried herself off from the trek. But William has never been hounded by the paps like Kate, never been judged, (despite those rumours of infidelity) never been compared to every other man in his orbit. Maybe the trek was a type of spiritual penance; an elite level of self-harm; "If I walk far enough and freeze enough and punish myself enough, maybe people will leave me be."

If that is part of Catherine's personal philosophy, who could blame her? Look what we did to her mother-in-law. Look what we do when one of the world's most beloved women decides to throw a party for herself and her husband. 

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Gloria Steinem once wrote that "Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke." 

But Taylor Swift, ever the mastermind, was one step ahead and made those armies her closest allies, turning her reputation as a frivolous girly pop singer into the most successful entertainer alive. If that's mid, then let her be mid.

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