Tara Costigan was the woman next door.
A hard worker. Quick to laugh and easy to like. She was happy, confident, strong. A woman who always looked after herself and her kids. Close with her family and friends, she was much loved. Then, in 2013, she met Marcus Rappel.
A local tradie, he was charming and sincere, they dated and fell in love. That should have been the end of a happy-ever-after story. But for Tara, it was much uglier. And for her family, it would be devastating.
A year later, Tara was pregnant to Marcus. Her family had been worried for a while, but Tara didn't tell anyone how Marcus' jealousy was souring the relationship. She tried to keep it quiet. Despite everything, she never imagined he would be physically violent - he would never hurt her.
Tara was wrong. On the last day of summer in 2015, she was holding their newborn baby in her arms, when he attacked her with an axe. Her murder seemed to come out of the blue. But as my book The First Time He Hit Her reveals, it did not.
The following is an extract from Heidi Lemon's book The First Time He Hit Her. Heidi is in the living room with her husband, watching the CCTV footage of Marcus Rappel driving towards Tara Costigan's house. Here, she writes about what she saw, and what it tells us about the nature of domestic violence.
I sprawl out on the lounge room floor and again watch the CCTV footage of the white ute doing its laps. Matty walks past and pauses. 'Whatcha watching?'
Stripped of context, it's an exceptionally dull piece of film. Simply a ute with darkened windows driving up and down a road. To my partner, it would seem unlikely that this footage is causing my heart to canter, my armpits to sweat, and, at the point when the ute turns suddenly into the driveway, my head to spin with an unexpected dizziness.