Iâm sitting up in bed, my hands trembling with anxiety.
Iâm about to drive over to my motherâs house and initiate one of the hardest conversations of our lives â much harder than when Dad left. Harder than when she had to sell the house. Harder than anything, really.
I wish I didnât have to do this. I so desperately wish this wasnât a conversation I had to have with my own mum. But here we are. Here I am â with shaky hands and a racing mind that just wonât slow down.
What am I going to say?
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Ugh! This is the worst feeling and so unfair. My FIL cheated on my husband's mother when she was pregnant. We never knew anything about this, she never told my husband or his brother. They divorced years later. Two years ago he got involved with a woman and then married her in secret. He texted his sons days later to tell them. We told MIL not knowing about the history with this woman. She was blindsided despite many years having passed. It was a horrible predicament to be in and to have done.
Good luck to the author!
I think you are right to tell her. I say this from personal experience. It sounds like your father moved on long before he actually left but for your mother it is still very new and raw. Your mother is still catching up and six months is nothing when you are the one who has been blindsided. Of course she will be very hurt but she will in time be appreciative of your need for transparency and the difficult and insensitive situation your father has put you in. Your a good daughter. đ