It’s a wintery Wednesday afternoon and I’m sharing a sneaky wine with my bestie before domestic duties consume us both. We’re giggly, talking too fast and excited for the weekend ahead.
Friday is a kid free night - hallelujah for babysitters. This means we will have dinner, a few drinks, some party favours and have sex with each other’s husbands and quite possibly with each other. Yep, this is my life.
So how did I get here?
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Looking back, I think I always knew monogamy wasn’t for me. It just didn’t fit very well. I was never completely loyal, and I had a mischievous side to my sexuality that I wanted, almost needed, to explore.
Luckily for me, my husband was much the same and after six months together we were looking for a single female to join us for a threesome.
Much to our surprise, the days of looking in the classifieds section were a thing of the past.
There were actual websites where you could set up a couple profile and put yourself out there with what you were looking for.
I was so naive to this whole world I named our original profile after my beloved dog, not realising that’s how everyone would address you.
Unsurprisingly, Brutus was not too popular. Despite our less than sexy start, within a week, we had a single not to mention gorgeous ‘unicorn’ on our doorstep and in our bed. What an initiation!
She was amazing, considerate, and oh so experienced. So, with that ticked off our bucket list, we delved headfirst into the unknown world of ‘swinging’.
Now, before I get into the whole swinging ‘scene’ as we like to call it, I need to expel some myths. Firstly, we do not put keys in a bowl, ever - in fact, truth be told, we hate to be referred to as 'swingers'.
Secondly, we do not want to sleep with everybody. There are websites, apps and functions for meeting like-minded people. We are sexual, we are not sexual predators.
Thirdly, I am not in an unhappy marriage; I am very in love and find it a turn on seeing my husband with someone else.
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Fourthly, we are clean, very clean. In fact, it is probably safer to meet someone in a swinging environment than on Tinder, safe sex and respect are paramount - always.
And finally, it’s not just for hairy, overweight, bored married folk looking to spice things up - trust me I have met and ‘played’ with more than a few damn fine-looking people.