Because we all need this guide.
Kids tend to save their meltdowns for the most inopportune moments – supermarket checkouts, quiet cafes, the moment you are trying to leave the house in the morning.
Tantrum triggers can start as early as breakfast, with the bambino freaking out about getting the blue bowl instead of the red one, and go on right to the end of the day, when they’d rather run around naked than get into bed. It’s no wonder you’re frazzled and exhausted!
Since it’s pretty much impossible to completely prevent tantrums (just like the weather, you just have to be prepared for those morning storms and afternoon downpours), we’ve come up with eight tried and tested ways to get through these long years so you can spend less time stressing and more time enjoying the fun bits.
1. Slow down
Be organised. Rushing your children causes stress for all concerned. Allow extra time and give plenty of warning about what is going to happen: “Jack, in five minutes we will be putting our shoes on and going to school”. Not only are children slow at getting ready, they often decide to gather up all their toys or put a certain dress up costume on, only telling you as you open the door to leave. Slowing down and listening to them will save you time and energy in the long run.
2. Set expectations
It’s important to set expectations before you leave the house or start an activity. Use repetition and ask your child to say your words back to you to help reinforce the goals: “We’re going to the supermarket to buy some food. We’re not going to buy a toy.” Meltdowns are often caused by not clearly setting boundaries. Children who are allowed to jump on the furniture at home will not understand why they cannot do the same when out and about. Decide what is important to you and stick to a few simple rules.
3. Create a reward chart
Stars can help kids shine! Make a list of the things you want your child to improve on each week or month, such as holding your hand when crossing the road, eating their vegetables or going to bed without a fuss. Buy a ready prepared chart (or save money and create your own at home) and add a sticker each time your child behaves. Make sure there’s a prize at the end: good reward ideas include a family outing, pizza night or a new toy.