Prince William and his girlfriend, branded by the press as 'Waity Katie'
“What is WRONG with women in their twenties?” a 37-year-old single friend asked me over lunch last week. I looked at him blankly. “Um, nothing?” Wrong answer. He put down his fork and took a deep breath. “Look, I’ve been dating twenty-something girls for a while now and I despair that their ultimate goal is to take up life long positions in the home raising children.” “That can’t be right,” I insisted, tucking into my toasted sandwich, “I thought they were all madly ambitious and accumulating degrees.”
“I thought that too!” he exclaimed, throwing up his hands. “But the ones I’ve met just seem to be using the whole uni and career thing as a springboard to meeting appropriate blokes who share their interests. They even want to take my name if we we’re married! Frankly, I’m appalled. The whole Stepford thing doesn’t appeal to me at all.” He looked down at his pasta, shaking his head sadly. “I’m going to have to start dating women my age….well, over thirty anyway.”
I thought about this conversation over the next few days and decided to check the veracity of his claim. Was my friend dating in some weird retro time bubble? Apparently not. The Courier Mail recently declared the Young Domestic Goddess movement an official social phenomenon: “The seductive appeal of cooking, housekeeping and family is increasingly favoured by women tired of pushing the boundaries of the ever-present glass ceiling.”
(Sorry, you lost me at “seductive appeal of housekeeping” but whatever. I’m clearly not the demographic). A couple my friends are in their twenties, both ambitious but equally keen on marriage and babies. They’re not particularly compelled to ‘have it all’, not at the same time anyway. “I have nothing to prove,” said the single 26-year-old. “I love my job but I know I’ll enjoy being a wife and mother too and I imagine it will be just as fulfilling.”
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I am in my twenties and I have bounced around from job to job having found nothing fulfilling. I dream of being able to swap my job as a paper pusher in a thankless, dead-end-job for a role with longer hours and no pay, but for something far more productive and fulfilling: the role of a "domestic goddess". I daydream of days spent cooking delicious meals, keeping the house and gardening, and someday raising children at home, but I know that a much more feasible dream is that of someday completing my degree and beginning a climb up the corporate ladder.
Why? Simply because it is next to impossible to get by on a single income nowadays. My partner and I struggle to make ends meet on two incomes, and we are neither of us on a poor wage. I would not expect my partner to struggle to support me financially, nor would he expect me to have to do the same for him. This is the unfortunate reality. I feel that women have come so far in the equal rights movement that they have come full circle. The average family cannot exist on a single income - we have no choice but to work. I don't, anyway, and none of my married female friends do. Either they struggle to juggle motherhood with their careers, or they do Tupperware or Avon and go back to work as soon as the kids are of school age.
I don't feel like I will ever be truly happy struggling to define myself through a career, but what choice do I have? Nowadays, society expects a double-income family - and the cost of living demands it.
I'm 21 and all i want is to be a housewife!
while i'm at my (unfulfilling) full time job, i day dream about by-gone era's when i could wear an apron, make pasta, and sit around drinking tea and knitting with the neighbours in amongst other household chores.
Why can't this be an option for me? as a woman in the 21st century i should be able to Choose what i do with my life!