“I’m a married man in a secret sexual relationship with another man.”
Last year Mamamia posted an article (here), asking why some straight men choose to seek out sex with other men.
Early this morning, a reader (we’ll call him “Hamish”) commented on that post asking for the advice of Mamamia readers.
“My wife and I have been married for 16 years and we have a daughter who’s in junior high; and a son in elementary school. My wife is a very loving and devoted wife and mother who takes very good care of all of us.
She was very beautiful when she was younger but after having become a full-time homemaker, she does not take care of her looks anymore. She has a ‘Tomboy’ haircut, wears a T-Shirt and a pair of Bermuda[s] all the time and does not wear makeup even when we go shopping. Also, she seems to have lost interest in sex and our conversation always circles around our kids, her parents and the neighbours which I am bored of.
When I suggest to go on a holiday, she would say let’s save money for the kids’ college tuition fees. I started to find her a very boring, nagging house maid.
Two years ago, a young man fresh from college joined my company. We have a lot of common interest[s] like tennis, cycling and angling besides philosophy and Eastern religions. He is very handsome and has a natural body fragrance but he is not effeminate at all.
We then began to have a sexual relationship and I’m sure it is not my hidden homosexual tendency was suppressed and now released because I don’t love men, but am romantically and sexually attracted to him.
I don’t think that I’m cheating on my wife because he is not a woman. I use the excuse of work assignments to go on tour with him. Whenever I am with him, it’s like first love again.
What should I do?
We get our fair share of trolls at Mamamia, so it’s possible that Hamish is a troll with a creative streak.
But there’s a chance that he’s also a bloke who is love with a man with a “natural body fragrance” who thinks his wife is now a “very boring, nagging house maid”.
So, we’re throwing over to you – our Mamamia community.
Do you have any advice for Hamish?