Millennials get a bad rap.
Developments in technology and social media have made communication more streamlined than ever before, and modernity has led to a safer environment for people to express their desires and feelings free of shame.
However, we’re constantly referred to as the “worst generation ever.”
Hey Grandpa: Remember how you guys had segregated water fountains and women couldn’t vote?
Millennials fight back against their horrible reputation. Post continues below.
However, there’s one aspect of social media and the modern age that worries me. I’m not concerned with the perceived “vanity” of taking selfies or people live-tweeting social events: I’m worried about the idea that “dating” means “having a conversation 24/7.”
The notion that people who are dating need to have a string of text messages going all day, every day, is an idea that’s as dangerous to a healthy and growing romantic relationship as it is inconvenient and exhausting.
Now, I want to start this by saying that I’m not talking about long-distance relationships here. That’s an entirely different animal.
What I am referring to is that being preoccupied with other things or not feeling the need to respond to a message immediately is somehow seen as the equivalent of not caring for someone.
Texting all the time is inconvenient and exhausting. Image via New Girl, FOX.
The reason for this, I believe, is because of a subconscious link between romantic love and co-dependence that’s instilled in us from a young age via pop culture.
The notion that people who are dating need to have a string of text messages going all day, every day, is a dangerous idea.
Often this you complete me mentality is phased out of us as we age — usually around the time you realise that Ross from Friends is more of a creep than a misunderstood Nice Guy (Seriously. Watch it again. It’s on Netflix. It’s pretty fucked up.)
A romantic partner and a relationship aren't supposed to “complete” you. You are not half a person. You’re a whole individual with their own feelings and ideas, establishing a meaningful and mutually beneficial bond with another person.
In order to adequately do this, you need to live a rich and fully fleshed-out life independent of that other person.
I'll be the first to admit that I'm not someone you should necessarily take dating advice from. I've literally broken up with someone because they didn't ask before taking a strip of bacon off my plate at breakfast. (It was a breach of trust, all right?)