We all go through moments of uncertainty or doubt about ourselves. When you’re battling with self-esteem issues whether constantly or fleetingly, simple things such as going out, getting dressed and meeting new people become a whole new set of challenges.
Often, friends, family or strangers will try to help. They’ll say things that, however well meant, only serve to make the problem worse. Find yourself about to say these phrases? Please, don’t.
1. “There’s no need to be shy.”
We know there’s no need but we can’t help it. Sure, you’re only trying to reassure us but it only makes us feel even more conscious about being quiet. Cue: nervousness.
(Watch: Meaghan Ramsey talks to Mia Freedman about the effects of low self-esteem. Post continues after video.)
2. “She’s such a snob.”
We’re not ignoring or avoiding you because we think we’re better than you.
“I get this a lot because I’m only loud and confident when I’m comfortable but crippled by shyness and uncertainty in unfamiliar situations,” said a friend of mine, Rachel.
3. “Just be confident in yourself.”
What groundbreaking advice!
4. “Stop worrying about what other people think of you.”
Again, if it was that simple, we would have done it by know. (Post continues after gallery.)