ANONYMUM: My son's lunch is being stolen at school by a kid whose mum has put him on a diet.

Too many children, even in a lucky country like Australia, are sent to school without breakfast or food to eat during the day. But this story is not about one of those kids.

This is a story of a mum who’s worried about her child’s weight, so is denying him food he will actually eat at school. With the consequence that the child is taking food from other kids.

I first learnt about this happening when my son, who’s in year six, came home a couple of weeks ago and said, “Alex keeps taking my food at school.”

Alex is one of his classmates, a nice kid, whose mother I was friendly with. I asked my son to explain exactly how this had occurred.

“When we all sit down to eat, he doesn’t have a lunch box, and just goes around in the circle looking in people’s lunch boxes. And he just takes what he wants.”

I asked all the usual questions:

Have you told him to stop? Yes, he just does it anyway. Have you told a teacher? Yes, but then Alex gets really angry at you later. Is he doing it just to you? No, to everyone.

Alex is a tall, muscly kid. He’s strong, and even though he’s got a kind heart like most kids, he knows how to exert his physical presence to get what he wants. I’ve seen him do it when he’s spent time with us. He’s known as a bit of a leader in the class – the kind of child that other kids don’t feel comfortable saying no to.

But this isn’t simply about Alex being a bully; there’s something going on in Alex’s family.

It’s not that they can’t afford to eat. It’s not that his parents are too busy to pack him lunch.

I know what’s really happening, because his mother indicated it to me a couple of months ago, although I didn’t realise it at the time.

We were at the school gate, and she told me, “I’m having a really big problem with Alex.”

“He lied to me about something. We were doing the groceries the other day and he went off to get me some milk, and I couldn’t find him. Then I saw him in the candy aisle, eating a Mars Bar. I was so angry, I told him that was enough calories for the day.”

Let me repeat: I told him that was enough calories for the day.

Surely school days are long enough without kids having to worry about empty stomachs? Source: Getty

His mother continued.

"He's enormous, and he's turning out just like his dad. So I'm trying to get him to only eat veggies and meat."

My heart broke for Alex. I was stunned. Alex is a growing, twelve-year-old boy. Sure, he needs nutritious calories. Of course he does.

But if he's secretly scoffing a chocolate bar the moment he gets a chance, then there's a problem. He's feeling deprived.

I know it's easier said than done, but if his mum is worried about his weight, they need to have a plan - together. A proper discussion, where Alex understands that he has access to a range of foods and can make good choices.

I know being a parent is hard. Lord knows I'm making plenty of mistakes, too.

But I strongly believe that school recess and lunch is not the time to restrict their diet. There needs to be a balance, and their needs to be a discussion about what this child would like to eat so that he has enough fuel for his body to run around and to learn.

I'm not saying he should bring a Mars Bar to school for lunch. But when my son told me that this poor child is so hungry that he's demanding food from other kids, I wanted to call his mum to say, "Hey, those carrot sticks you're sending him? That lunch box that's just got a plain boiled egg and celery? It's not working!"

My son is going hungry because of your son, I want to say. My son is worried every recess and lunch time about his own food being taken. If you couldn't afford food, I would happily send along two lunch boxes, every day. But my son is starving, because of your choices.

At the end of the day, it's my job to protect my son. I didn't know how I could possibly raise this with Alex's mum without it going pear-shaped, so I told the school.

I'm sure they'll be able to handle it. I'm sure, soon, my son will be able to eat his lunch in peace.

I can only hope the same goes for Alex.

Has this happened in your family? What would you do? Tell us in the comments below.