Are you a stay-at-home-mum? Is it something you tell people with pride?
Do you burst with joy when telling old friends explaining you are busy and fulfilled, that your days are spent in a tapestry of ways, crafting little people?
Or do you cringe a little at the term?
It’s a phrase that has both divided and united women. It’s one battleground of the so-called “Mummy Wars” of the last decade (oh please let them be over).
But it’s a term that hasn’t been embraced by women due to its perceived connotations.
I’ve noticed since I became a mum a re-occurring conversation women seem to have around the same phases of their child’s life.
It first crops up when their baby turns one. It then lingers and dies down a little for a few years and then it resurfaces with a vengeance when their child starts school. By the time all their kids are at school it seems to be an ongoing conversation.
By then though I have noticed its less of a conversation and more of a justification, an answer to an often unasked question that many women feel they need to square off with each person they meet.
Why aren’t you back at work yet?