In 2017, Australia watched Sophie Monk search for love on The Bachelorette. Now she's found 'the one'.

It’s been nearly three years since Australia watched Sophie Monk on her 2017 season of The Bachelorette.

The nation had high hopes for the lovable, self-described bogan from the Gold Coast we first met as a part of the girl group Bardot on Popstars way back in 2000.

Aussies loved watching the Hollywood actress search for love on national TV. The 40-year-old’s season gave us so many golden moments, from the great ‘pissing in the pot plant debacle’ to seeing runner up Jarrod Woodgate struggle to walk through sand after being told he didn’t have Monk’s heart.

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But when Monk and her series winner Stu Laundy announced their breakup in January 2018, less than four months after The Bachelorette finale aired, we couldn’t help but feel disappointed after being so invested in her reality TV dating journey.

Despite no long-lasting relationship coming from the show, Monk tells The Sydney Morning Herald she has “no regrets” about going on the reality TV show.

“I used to be a bit of a walkover and a people pleaser. The pace of The Bachelorette taught me to be more confident and honest with myself. It also led to lots of other work, like hosting Love Island Australia, which has just been picked up by a big network in the UK,” Monk told the publication.

And, although things did not work out the way she thought they would, the former singer says she has now found someone she wants to be with “forever”.

Talking about her current partner, Joshua Gross, Monk says: “I’d love to have a family one day, but we’re not trying yet. You just never know with the timing.”

The couple met on a plane in 2018, she explains.


“I had just finished filming Love Island in Mallorca and was on my way to San Francisco for a random TV gig with Channel Nine when I made a last-minute decision to go back to Australia. I sat next to Josh in business class and we started chatting. About two hours into the flight, I asked him if he was single. He responded yes. I then asked if I could kiss him. I was clearly out of practice and a bit of a nerd so I went to brush my teeth and thought, ‘Let’s do this.’ We had 16 hours to go.”

It isn’t the first time Monk has spoken so openly about her relationship.

Last September, the reality TV star told Stellar that she knows “this is the one.”

“If he’s out, I give up, I really do.”

“He’s everything I want in a person and more… I don’t think you could invent a better person for me. I’ve gone for something completely opposite to what I’ve ever gone for.

“He’s a man; a grown up. He’s really sweet without being annoying, and he’s calm and makes me feel safe.”


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Gross, 36, a neurosurgical robotics executive, has relocated from America to move into Monk’s Gold Coast home. Monk says she doesn’t think a proposal is too far off, especially considering she “keeps asking him to ask me”.


She also talked about feeling like she’d let the entire country down by not being able to make things work with Laundy.

“I felt an obligation because everyone was so empathetic to me and wanted a happy ending… Even Rebel Wilson said to me, ‘Please tell me you’re in love.’ Yes, it was disappointing, but I don’t regret doing the show because my intentions were genuine, and if that hadn’t happened with Stu I’d have never met Josh.”

The couple met after sitting next to each other on a flight to Australia from the US.


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Monk’s love life was tabloid fodder long before appearing on The Bachelorette. She’s been engaged twice, first to Good Charlotte guitarist Benji Madden, then businessman Jesse Esberg. Monk has also been linked to actors Jason Statham, Kevin Connolly and Sam Worthington, TV host Ryan Seacrest and plastic surgeon John Diaz.

In 2018, Monk told Mamamia’s No Filter podcast she’d always been impulsive in previous relationships, and being patient was something she had to learn.


“I move quickly… I had to learn to sit back a bit and be patient, don’t be so impulsive. If I could tell any woman anything, do not have sex on the first night. Wait as long as you can because sex complicates things,” she told Mia Freedman.

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The biggest lesson Monk said she’s learnt about love and being single is the importance of not looking for a relationship just to “fill a void”.

“You’ve really got to care about yourself to care about someone else, and I didn’t realise that. If you don’t care about yourself, you attract the wrong person, or you’ll search for the wrong thing to fill a void.”

“I was always in relationships, but when I became comfortable on my own, that’s when it happened.”

This post was originally published on September 22, 2019, and updated on June 14, 2020.

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