Illawarra high school physical education teacher Kurt Majoor 25, will be sentenced later this month after pleading guilty to having sex with two of his female students aged 16 and 17. He is currently in jail.
My son is sleeping with his teacher. He is 18. Just. Nothing happened while he was a student and not until he turned 18 – three months post school. Well, that’s what he tells me. I’m not convinced, nor does it matter, because something did happen. For two years, she was his teacher during which he was groomed and emotionally manipulated to the point of dependency. To add salt into the wound she was my colleague. Yes, I am also a teacher.
They were close. I knew he confided in her. There was a time I was grateful for this. My son, like many boys (I say boy because he was not yet a man) had a few issues. It is a tough time transitioning from teen to adult. Throw in a dysfunctional relationship with an absent narcissistic father, anger ‘issues’ and a mother who inadvertently confused his identity with conflicting responsibilities as ‘man of the house’ or ‘child’ when being disciplined. In retrospect, he was ripe for the taking.
He is a good looking ‘kid’. Tall and strong with blue eyes framed by thick black lashes that probably enabled behaviours that should have been called as a child. He isn’t flawless, he has pimples, he is, after all, a teenager.
She is an attractive thirty-year-old woman.
I enabled this relationship. My son was hurting. I couldn’t help him. She became his confidant. He became ‘happier’, he was dealing with some demons. As a mother this brought me comfort. She was smart. She ‘kept me in the loop’. Sent me little texts, letting me know that she ‘was chatting to him last night, he was pretty down, talked about his father, but she thinks they made some progress…’.