People tell you to ‘get back in the game’ – but no one tells you how hard that can be when you’ve got your little buddies along.
Sure there’s the obvious things about being a single parent that you can anticipate: not as much freedom, financial worries, dealing with an ex and all that, but there’s some distinct realities of socialising as a single parent that no one mentions and here they are….
1. There’s no designated driver – you’re it.
This becomes particularly obvious over the Christmas holidays. You may have plenty of invites to parties and bbqs, with kids invited, but you’ll soon realise that it’s one drink for you whilst married couples happily take it in turns with one the ‘designated’ driver, rewarded at the next event where they can sip a few wines and let themselves go. Cabs aren’t an option either, not least because of the baby seat but really you just can’t drink because you’re responsible, just you and when you get home you still have to be in charge – and control.
2. You have to swim.
Your friends have a pool, there’s a pool in the complex, you’re all meeting at the beach? You can bet that you’ll have to go in. You see Dad’s go in with the kids – not mums. Mums don’t want to get their hair wet, re-do their make-up, they have timeout drinking those wines as the Dad’s occupy the kids in the water. Except for the single mum, she’s in the pool too. If your kid loves swimming then you may spend the whole party there.