I’m a chronic social committer.
If I make plans with someone, I stick to them, barring a natural disaster or me ending up in hospital (which has actually happened… often).
But while I always follow through on my plans whenever humanly possible, I’ve noticed other people… don’t.
And the disturbing part is, it’s becoming more and more common.
A quick scroll through Instagram usually turns up at least one meme which reads something like: “I can’t wait to make plans so I can cancel them.”
Um, rude much?
Since when did it become not only socially acceptable, but cool and supposedly funny to bail on people?
I get it, we’re all increasingly busy, and most days, we’re too exhausted to even commando crawl from the couch to the comfort of our bed, but if you make plans with someone, you should absolutely stick to them.
I’ve even pulled up friends who are notorious for cancelling our plans.
Just recently, I sent a friend a message saying, “I understand you’re tired, but this is actually the third time in a row that you’ve cancelled on me, and I actually find it really rude and disrespectful.”
It really helped her to see things from my perspective, because it honestly hadn’t crossed her mind that I was being affected by her persistent bailing.
It was especially annoying, because she’d often send me a text message half an hour before we were due to catch up on a Saturday night.
I know sometimes there’s nothing more you’d rather do than go home and watch Netflix under a blanket, especially when the weather is cold and wet. But if you’ve made plans with someone, at the very least you should put in an appearance.
Even if you need to downsize your plans – sometimes you just can’t afford or deal with a night out clubbing, so make plans to grab a coffee instead.
Just show up though.
And if you don't think you're going to want to go out on Tuesday night after a full day of work, then don't say yes to begin with.
This is a conversation I'm always having with my sister, who as much I love, will often seriously think about cancelling plans with people.