Debating how much “me-time” you deserve on Mother’s Day? Remember that for some mums, that isn’t even an option.
What do you wake up to on Mother’s Day?
Brightly wrapped gifts presented to you? Breakfast in bed loving prepared by your partner and presented by your kids complete with a wilted rose in a teacup?
Do you pretend to be thrilled by the dressing gown and slippers while silently seething at the memory of when your husband bought his mother a similar style?
(And wrapped in the same paper too!)
Have you been joining in the chorus of voices in Facebook mother’s groups complaining about how all you want for Mother’s Day is some “me-time” (and a decent present to boot).
I get it, I do. Mother’s Day is the one special day of the year when it is YOUR day, when nobody else should get a look in. You deserve to be pampered and appreciated. Spoilt. You deserve a special day.
Except, for many women, it isn’t special.
For many mums, Mothers’ Day is pretty much just another day. They get up, they tend to the kids, they just have a day.
A day that many secretly wish might just be a little more special, but when there is no one around to make it special it becomes just another day of getting on with it.
Throughout Australia there are 780,000 single mothers. Some of them, of course, have older children, some have new partners, or live in adult family, and some have ex-partners who are thoughtful and kind.
And then there are the ones who don’t. Then there are the ones who have escaped an abusive relationship. The ones who wake up in a sweat forgetting for an instant they are safe. The ones abandoned, alone.
The ones who get no breakfast in bed. The ones who get no gifts. The ones who get no “me time”.
Their kids can’t cook, can’t shop and certainly can’t leave.
These women have children too small to really understand that it is a special day. They’ve been told by their pre-school that it’s Mothers’ Day but that it stopped there.