I’ve never thought of myself as a super-extroverted social butterfly – but I’ve also never accepted that I was a lone wolf introvert, either.
Like Miley Cyrus, or the platypus, I didn’t fit into a neat category. I was a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.
Until (drum roll…) I discovered the term ‘ambivert’.
An ambivert is someone who sits on the personality fence: sure, we like people, and socialising with said people, but we also enjoy our own company. And sleep.
Ambiverts have been described as “the forgotten personality type”, but it is estimated that around 38% of the population falls into the ambivert category.
Personality psychologist and author Brian Little recently told The Huffington Post that we ambiverts actually have the best of both worlds: We have the classic introvert’s skills of self-reflection, coupled with the extrovert’s outgoing nature:
“Ambiverts can take the best of both. Those who are ambiverts have rather more degrees of freedom to shape their lives than those who are at extremes of other ends.”
Sound familiar? Here are the 8 signs you might be an ambivert.
1. You don’t feel like you fit into either introvert or extrovert category.
The clearest sign you are an ambivert is if you think you are. Duh. So if you think you sit somewhere in the middle, according to whatever particular circumstances you are facing at the time, you are probably correct.
2. You can party with the best of them.
Ambiverts love mixing with other people – but on their own terms. So if you have your best buddies with you, you are often quite happy to meet new people and socialise to the wee hours.
3. But you also love your ‘alone time’.
On the other hand, one you have reached your socialising quota, you are Done. Out. Gone. You have a finite amount of energy, and once it is used up, you will gratefully rush home to the warm embrace of your bed.