It’s an age old debate – should you charge your children board once they turn 18 or should you let them
spend all their money on clothes, alcohol and phone bills save for a home or a new car once they get that first job?
Many of us were charged board ourselves when we first started bringing in a pay packet. But would you do it to your own kids? The debate has heated up on the parenting forum Mumsnet after a mother posed the question: ”Is housekeeping money frowned upon?”
She asked: “My ds1 is finally going to work, he’s 19, hopefully he’ll stick with it. My dh wants to charge him housekeeping money. I was chatting to someone at work and he said that he wouldn’t charge his children to live at home. It should always be their home and he’d never charge his children to live there … What’s the general consensus?”
As with all things parenting the reaction was deeply divided with some saying it was important to charge teenagers rent while others said it was something they would never do.
“Plenty of other ways to teach responsibility with money and for me it just wouldn’t feel right,” said one user called cheekyfunkymonkey.
Another said she was charged board as a teenager and vowed she would never do that to her children.
Tatterdemali0n said, “If my kids are in education or apprenticeships then no way will I make them give me money. But once they are working properly and still living here then yes they will have to contribute something.”
Hellsbelsmelon said that "of course" you should charge your child rent.
“I was charged as a youngster. He's 19 now and an adult. Welcome to the adult world! You have to pay to live. It's that simple.”
She said she pays her daughter’s phone contract and her “very high car insurance!” So the rent her daughter pays “only just covers that.”
One user, Meddie said it depended on whether the teenager was working or studying.
“If they are still in education no. But if they are working they as an adult they should contribute to the cost of utilities and food that they use. I know my utilities halved when they were at Uni and my food bill was a third of what it used to be. I don't see why its OK for me to use my wages to subsidise another adult, who then gets to keep all of their wages to use for fun stuff like going out, holidays and clothes.”