Mothers’ Group, it’s got a bad wrap; cat fights, competitiveness, bitchy comments and judgements – but is that really all it is?
Early motherhood is probably THE most vulnerable time we will ever have in our lives; hormones are going nuts, we’re switching personalities like Jekyll & Hyde, we’re super sensitive and we are only ever an inch away from feeling like we should give our children over to the department due to poor parenting —remember that time they cried for two (whole) minutes and I didn’t even pick them up?
Remember when I didn’t have enough breast milk, I couldn’t breastfeed, I co-slept, I didn’t co-sleep, I dropped croissant crumbs on their head, I didn’t spend enough time with my other child, my husband, my dog, on myself (you do not want to see these toenails right now – can anyone say Hulk and Hobbits combined?)
You throw a bunch of women together, who are…… let’s make a list:
– Zombie tired
– Sore in parts we never knew we had
– Feeling isolated
– More challenged than we have possibly felt in our entire lives
– Not wanting to leave the house, yet at the same time, desperately needing to escape the house, like it’s Alcatraz
– Needing to socialise with people who don’t throw food on the floor or try to fondle your boobs.
What are mothers’ groups good for?
I know I desperately needed other people who ‘understood’ what I was doing though, at the same time that I was going through it. When I was going through something, so were they- it was perfection! I remember telling multiple people ‘you don’t understand’. Not to downplay their importance in my life or their attempts to help or be supportive, or be condescending in any way – but I felt they just didn’t get it.