I’ve seen so many memes and Twitter threads about ‘iso sex’, it feels like I can’t escape them. And as silly as it sounds, I’m six months into my marriage and I just don’t get it.
The world is literally upside down in a global state of emergency with thousands of worries and concerns constantly floating around in the atmosphere… and people are finding the time and energy to have sex!?
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As I scrolled through my social media feeds and read people talking about all the sex they’re having, the anxious thoughts started creeping into my mind:
“We’re newlyweds, what’s wrong with us? Is it weird we’re not having sex?”
“Am I not making enough of an effort right now? Am I a bad wife?”
“Even though I feel like I’m barely holding it together each and every day — should sex be a top priority for me right now, along with the millions of others?”
I am endlessly impressed (and horrified) by the number of details we’re guilt-tripping ourselves with, but in the defence of couples who are not having loads of sex right now (in fact, are having less) : There’s nothing sexy about job-loss. You know what doesn’t make a person feel hot and heavy? A sudden and crippling loss of income.
That is the reality my husband and I are now readjusting to since my biggest client let me go for their own financial security earlier this week. 75 per cent of my income gone in the blink of an eye. Safe to say that sex has not been on my mind recently.
Instead, my head is filled with emergency procedures and crisis planning for finding a supplemental income in an economy that has nothing further to offer a self-employed person like me. Every prospective client of mine is haemorrhaging, I’m in damage-control mode. I’m too busy trying to figure out how to ensure we don’t lose our house to fantasise about riding my husband all night long.
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