Attention all new mothers. Let me tell you something that you may not believe right now. You will have sex again. More importantly, you’ll WANT to have sex again. And get this, you’ll probably even enjoy it.
Look, I know right now you can’t even begin to imagine anyone or anything going anywhere near your vagina but believe me, it will become a normal part of your life again. Luckily as women, we are born with an inbuilt ability to forget how bloody horrendous childbirth is because let’s face it, if we weren’t, the world would die out very quickly.
Will it be different though? I’m not going to lie, it WILL be different. But not necessarily in a bad way. In fact, I would go so far as to say that the older you get, the more enjoyable sex becomes. Child or no child. There are those immediate changes after giving birth that will affect both the experience and frequency in which you have sex though. For example.
You Sex Drive will wane.
In the first few weeks/months after giving birth, the new mothers’ sex drive will be affected by both the level of trauma she has sustained (either by Caesarean or vaginal delivery) and her pure and utter exhaustion.
A woman’s sex drive is a very cyclical thing at the best of times. When you’ve just effectively staged the Hunger Games in your vagina and you are running on 3 hours of sleep, it’s fairly safe to say that sex will not be high on your agenda.
It will be back again but you just have to wait it out until then.
Apart from the obvious outward physical changes, there will be a lot more going on than before, predominantly in your mind. It doesn’t matter if you are one of the lucky ones that snaps back into shape three weeks after having a baby or if, like most of us, you still are very much bearing the evidence of having just given birth, you will be conscious of yourself naked. That first time getting ‘back in the saddle’ is daunting but don’t be embarrassed by your new, wider hips or extra skin. Your partner will not be judging you on this.
At least he or she had better not be.
If you are breastfeeding, there’s a high chance that your breasts may leak (or start squirting) milk — especially if they are stimulated by your partner.