If you’ve been watching Married at First Sight you would have seen Lauren and Andrew’s train wreck of a “marriage”. Short story: they were married for less than 24 hours before Lauren decided to ghost him in a pub and disappear for the next five days.
I’m sure Lauren isn’t the first or last bride to have second thoughts walking down the aisle.
A survey last year in the UK revealed a frightening statistic that 70% of marriages will deal with infidelity of some kind. That same survey also claimed a third of people believed they had married the wrong person.
In Australia in 2014, there were 121,197 marriages and 46,498 divorces (nearly 40%).
So it’s no wonder many brides have second thoughts about the man they are going to marry – even as they are walking down the aisle. I recently reached out to my female friends to find out what was REALLY going through their minds in those moments before they said, “I do”.
“It didn’t seem real, it seemed more like playing house and it only sank in that I was married hours after the ceremony.”
“It hit me that it’s final and that we barely know one another. We’ve never had sex before or anything. ‘Til that moment I was caught up in doing the “right” thing and feeling close to God, partaking in something sacred that’s meant to be according to “His Will” but I was honestly scared right afterwards.
“I loved my new husband of course, it was our choice to get married, but suddenly he seemed like a stranger and really he was in so many ways … that’s when it hit me for the first time, just how long this “till death do us apart” may be. My new mother in law said it was a normal feeling and she felt the same way when getting married.”
“As a “trifecta” bride I had three very different experiences. Married the 1st time in my 20s the 2nd time in my 30s and the 3rd in my 40s, as you can imagine my life and my mindset was very different each time.”
“The first time I walked down the aisle as a 26-year-old bride, I remember feeling stressed. I was furious the celebrant was late. The venue had forgotten to put out the extra chairs and one of my bridesmaids had gone rogue and worn an unauthorised pair of heels.
“When I got married at 34 I walked down the aisle thinking “It’ll be OK, he won’t cheat again now you’re married. Yup. I was a complete moron. He had cheated the entire time we were together. I also remember thinking, fuck I hate his family as we were getting married.