A woman on Reddit has shared her predicament after her boyfriend asked if he could propose to her using a customised ring he had originally intended for his now ex-girlfriend.
Titled “Is it unreasonable rejecting an old engagement ring?”, the woman, who goes by the username ‘thatgirlwithqns’, shares that she is unsure what to do in the situation, because whilst she understands the practicality of it from his side, she doesn’t like that it was originally designed for another woman.
“My boyfriend and I have always talked about getting married,” the woman began. “Recently he asked if I was okay with him giving me an old engagement ring.”
Providing context, she explains that her partner was with his previous girlfriend for four years and planned to propose to her before they ended their relationship. That was three years ago, she explains, and he now still has the customised ring, which was sourced from overseas.
“I’m not sure what the actual value of the ring was, but according to him he spent few thousand dollars on the ring in total. This was not even including the money spent flying to and fro.”
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“He asked if I was okay with him giving me the old ring because it’s just been sitting in his cupboard, and he felt like there was finally a purpose to that old ring.”
The woman admits that she understands “the practicality of it” since “it’ll go to waste if he doesn’t use it”.
And, by not purchasing a new ring, she continues, the couple will be able to save their money for “more important things like our house instead”.
“However something in my heart just can’t get over the fact that the ring was originally made for someone else in mind. He assured me that she never wore it, but I just don’t want something that wasn’t made for me.”
“Am I being unreasonable? I don’t need an expensive ring, and I don’t need diamonds, but I’d like the ring to be bought with me in mind.”
The user explained that they had explored the option of selling the bespoke engagement ring, but that the jeweller explained it would only be worth a few hundred dollars – considerably less than what he paid for it.
“The ring was only expensive because of all the customisations that he had made to it,” she clarified. “The jewel/material of the ring itself was not that expensive.”