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Just last week we watched as her husband told her she was pregnant, but today some devastating news.

Their popular “husband tells wife she is pregnant” video went viral since it was uploaded last week.

Just last week a video made by US vloggers Sam and Nia went viral.

Nia receives the news she is pregnant.

The video showed Sam informing his wife Nia that she was pregnant after he secretly tested her urine from an un-flushed toilet.

The video divided social media, with some delighted, others feeling it was invasive and some just wondering why she hadn’t flushed the toilet.

 The viral video:

The couple themselves in the video seemed overjoyed at the news they were expecting a third child.

But just a day later their happiness turned to grief with Nia suffering a devastating miscarriage.

The couple, who make a video blog every day, took a rare day off to cope with their loss.

And then yesterday released a video explaining the reason for their absence.

That overnight Nia had miscarried what they said was a daughter.

“We were so happy… and you could see in our vlog from yesterday, we were just so overjoyed,” Nia says in the most recent video.

“And it was like a huge celebration. And then it — bam — it just hit us like a bomb.”

Nia says she now knows how women who have had miscarriages feels “I am mourning with those of you who are feeling this.”

Sam and Nia’s sad news.

“I’ve never experienced with Sam what I went through last night. We really, for the first time in our marriage and our relationship, grieved together.”

A tearful Sam says “Nia and I mourning together like this has made us stronger,”

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“And it’s made me appreciate my children more… this morning when I woke up, I loved on them so, so much…”

They announce their sad loss:

Their video comes on the back of Facebook boss Mark Zuckerberg’s announcement last week that he and his wife, Dr Priscilla Chan are expecting a baby – but that it had been a tough battle to get there.

Mark Zuckerberg and his wife, Dr Priscilla Chan.

Mark Zuckerberg took to Facebook to write:

Priscilla and I have some exciting news: we’re expecting a baby girl!

This will be a new chapter in our lives. We’ve already been so fortunate for the opportunity to touch people’s lives around the world — Cilla as a doctor and educator, and me through this community and philanthropy. Now we’ll focus on making the world a better place for our child and the next generation.

We want to share one experience to start. We’ve been trying to have a child for a couple of years and have had three miscarriages along the way.

He continued:

It’s a lonely experience. Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you — as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.

In today’s open and connected world, discussing these issues doesn’t distance us; it brings us together. It creates understanding and tolerance, and it gives us hope.

When we started talking to our friends, we realized how frequently this happened — that many people we knew had similar issues and that nearly all had healthy children after all.

We hope that sharing our experience will give more people the same hope.

Experts say that one in four pregnancies result in miscarriage. Kate Bourne, chairman of the Australia and New Zealand Infertility Association calls it a “messy grief.”

Dr Penny Brabin from the International Stillbirth Alliance agrees. ” Women often wonder whether they are entitled to grieve because there’s no baby to hold or say goodbye to” Fairfax Media reports she said.

“Humans have a strong tendancy to try and avoid the overwhelming pain of grief”

“To distract from it through work or keeping busy; to minimise its depth [or] to imply that a baby was not a real person, thus, the grief not a real experience.”

Videos like that of Sam and Nia, and public statements like Mark Zuckerberg are an important step in making miscarriage something society recognises.

For Sam and Nia the news has hit deep, she says she feels empty but that they will try again for another baby.

We wish them all the best.

Pregnancy and Loss support: Bears of Hope 

For more:

The viral video in which a husband tells his wife she’s pregnant is actually creepy.

Four things not to say to someone who’s had a miscarriage.

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