I know many couples who have rules in their relationship.
Never argue in public. Never go to bed angry. If you’re upset – voice it. Don’t fester and bring it up weeks later, when you’re arguing about something entirely unrelated.
By and large, there is nothing inherently wrong with forging rules for your relationship. If they fit your personalities and your expectations, they no doubt can make for a healthier and happier partnership.
But is deciding who your partner can, or more accurately, can’t eat with, well beyond the scope of acceptable relationship rules?
Should you have rules for your relationship? And if so, what are they? Mia Freedman, Monique Bowley and I discuss on this week’s episode of Mamamia Out Loud. Post continues below.
This week, an interview with Mike Pence from more than 15 years ago resurfaced.
The Vice President of the United States said that he never eats alone with a woman who is not his wife, and he won’t attend events that serve alcohol, without her present.
His personal rules for marriage have, however, entered his professional life.
Pence cannot have a lunch meeting or professional dinner with a female co-worker, even if she happens to be Angela Merkel or Theresa May. Any aide or colleague who will be required to work late alongside him, must be of the male variety.
Pence’s rules unequivocally exclude women from certain professional opportunities. Simply, it’s workplace discrimination. His behaviour actively sustains the hegemonic ‘boys club’ and reduces women to sexual temptresses who have no place in the board room.
The sexism inherent in Pence’s decision not to interact with women one on one in the workplace is not up for debate.
Pence is not a good guy or a good husband for not eating with women. He’s a guy who thinks women are purely sexual, and lesser than men.
— Brittany Crampsie (@BritCrampsie) 30 March 2017