It’s easy to describe to someone the things that you hate about your body.
It’s easy to pinch at your skin, pull at your clothes, scowl at your reflection and slump your body with distaste.
It’s easy to cover up because you feel ashamed, to hide parts of your body because you think ‘it’s not good enough’, ‘others will look, others will judge.’
What’s not easy is to tell the world the things that you love about your body.
I’ve wanted to write about my struggles with my body image for some time now – but I felt unsure of the angle I wanted to take. On the one hand I wanted to support the body love movement that encourages diversity of shape and size. On the other hand, I didn’t want to celebrate unhealthiness.
And it’s important for me to explain that right now, while I’m trying to love and accept my body for what it is – a body that carried two children and is not the same size it once used to be – I’m also aware of the fact that my current size is not healthy. But it is on the way towards a fitter, healthier size.
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My doctor recently diagnosed me with insulin resistance – a condition that can be controlled with healthy eating and regular exercise; but if ignored, could lead to diabetes down the track. And that’s why I do need to make a change. Therefore the love for my body that I’m about to describe to you below comes with a caveat, a caveat that states that I am working towards a fitter, happier, stronger, brighter me. I’m just trying to love myself along the way.
It was my psychologist’s idea. I told her that while I have many hang-ups about my own body, I’d been trying as much as possible to ensure I instil a sense of self love and body confidence in my children about their own bodies.
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I’ve always been adamant that I will not pass my own issues and insecurities onto them. I explained how I often asked my girls to tell me the things that they love about their bodies and encouraged them to realise just how strong they are, how wonderful it was to be able to run and jump and climb and skip. And yet when it came to my own body, I’ve often told my psychologist all the things that I hate, including the fact that I hate my stomach the most.