I need some help with a dilemma.
I am a single mum who takes my kids to the local swimming pool. Every time I go there there’s another mum – who I suspect is also single – who doesn’t seem to realise there is a LOT of lady hair poking out the back of her swimmers and down the back of her legs.
Should I tell her? I would want to know if that was the case. And if so, how do I tell her?
Pubic hair dilemmas are our favourite kind of dilemmas.
This question was submitted by a listener of our bi-weekly podcast Mamamia Out Loud, and for once we were in furious agreement.
DO NOT TELL YOUR ACQUAINTANCE ABOUT HER PUBIC HAIR SITUATION IT’S UNNECESSARY AND CONFRONTING FOR EVERYONE.
This is for many reasons.
First, it is possible, if not likely, that the woman in question, let’s call her Ellen, knows her pubes are on show. What if she wants to let them out into the world? What if they wanted to meet you? See the sun? Feel the air on its shaft? Her pubes certainly aren’t hurting anyone.
… Unless they’re racist pubes. Are they racist pubes? Homophobic pubes? Predatory pubes?
And by telling her she has a pube situation, you’re essentially saying, ‘Excuse me, Ellen, yes hi, just wanted to let you know you’re upsetting everyone with your bum hair and you no longer have permission to be at the pool. Bye now!’ And we don’t want that for Ellen. Because we like Ellen.
Second, say she doesn’t know about her bum pubes. In that case, she will certainly get quite a shock when you tell her. She might feel embarrassed or ashamed, and it’s not like she can do anything about it at that very moment unless you hand her a razor out of your handbag and smile, supportively, while she performs a bum shave in a public toilet. Then, her butt hair will go all over the floor, which is a mess for the cleaners but also other patrons. Do you want to be walking around barefoot on bum hair? Do you?
Third, and most importantly, you know the saying: If a tree falls in a desert and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?
Yes, well, if a bum pube pokes out of one’s swimming costume, but one never knows that the bum pube pokes out, THEN DID A BUM PUBE EVER TRULY POKE OUT? (Yes). But that’s not the point. The point is… wouldn’t we all want to live a life without a conversation with an acquaintance about curly pubes growing down our legs?
“AH!” those in disagreement yell. “BUT isn’t it a sisterly act? To let a woman know? I’d hope someone would tell me if my bum pubes were out of control. I can’t see them for myself, unless I stand upside down in a full length mirror!”