If there’s one thing you can rely on about being a parent, it’s that your child’s behaviour will sometimes (and maybe often) frustrate you. This certainly doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. And it doesn’t mean that your child’s behaviour isn’t manageable.
Even the happiest of family households (those ones you see on Facebook!) can feel tense and stressed when a child’s behaviour crosses the line too often. It’s natural for parents to feel upset and drained if they seem to ‘battle’ with their child over everyday issues such as shopping, bedtime, homework, or curfew times for teenagers.
Because you love and care for your children, you will try your best to deal with that behaviour. But it’s unreasonable to think that you can be a perfect parent, and you shouldn’t even try; no-one can be a superman or superwoman.
Let’s face it: it’s usually trial and error.
It’s not surprising though, that being a parent can be quite tough at times. Raising the next generation is so important, and it takes effort and patience (so much patience!).
But most of us begin our parenting careers unprepared for what lies ahead. Usually, we learn through trial and error. And no matter how much experience we get along the way, our kids and life itself always seems to throw up something new to deal with.
So how do we know if we are bringing up our kids well? And how do we go about reducing the stress that comes when we’re struggling with behaviours we just can’t seem to get a handle on?