Parenting was easier in a time before Instagram.
While the social media app offers an unlimited supply of brunch recommendations, animal videos and DIY ideas, it’s also another avenue where children and teens can engage in potentially unsafe behaviour with parents none the wiser.
However, not only do parents need to worry about their teen’s public profile now, there’s also a rise in the private, secondary, secret Instagram account, which adults potentially don’t have access to and aren’t able to monitor.
Calling for help on the This Glorious Mess hotline, Mamamia’s podcast for imperfect parents, one listener posed a particularly tricky dilemma.
We explain the increasing trend of teens who create private, second Instagram accounts. Post continues after the video.
Here’s what she had to say.
“I used to babysit for two young girls until their family moved interstate. I haven’t seen them in four years, but I have the whole family including the daughters on my Facebook and Instagram,” she shared.
“I message back and forth with the mum a couple of times a year. My dilemma is that the oldest daughter has a hidden Instagram account. She’s 16 and on her hidden Instagram, she’s posted nude and provocative photos of herself doing what looks like drugs and engaging in types of sexual intercourse. HELP.
“I don’t want to slut shame her at all, I just worry this is a phase and with all this content being online you can’t take it back if she decides she no longer wants it out in the world. She’s also the daughter of someone in the public eye and I just worry these pictures will come back and embarrass her as she gets older.”
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What she is doing is illegal. Nothing to do with slut shaming, if this is the reason for not reporting it to her parents, you misunderstsnd the term slut shame. She needs to be reported to her parents before she gets reported to the police for distributing child porn, even if it is of herself. And the drug use, more illegal activity. She needs help. To ignore that isn't allowing her to be empowered or any other bs, its failing to help a child who needs it.
I agree. It’s also a concern who can get a hold of those photos and what will happen to them. It won’t take much for someone to try to ruin her life.
What? Telling the parents of a 16 year old child that she's posting pornographic pictures of herself on the internet is seen as akin to "slut shaming" by some people?? How on earth have we gotten to a situation wherein it would be considered "shaming" a kid to intervene here?
Particularly if there seems to be drugs involved.